2. Congratulate yourself. This is a big step! A really, really big step. Pat yourself on the back for building up the courage to think about the distinct possibility of realistically taking this step at some point in the definitely very near future.
3. Revel in your future bravery. Imagine the looks on everyone's faces when you reveal this facet of your identity to them. Nothing will be the same. Everything will be different. It will be great.
4. Think about it some more. Pick no fewer than seventeen ways to let it out. Create different ways to reach different people you know. Build up entire conversations in your head with these people. Momentarily forget that these conversations haven't actually happened.
5. Come out to a close friend, family member, acquaintance, partner, bus driver, etc. Your first coming-out! Immediately forget all the clever one-liners you had planned for this moment and spill your secret in a cloud of word-vomit all over them. Hopefully, your conversation will not also involve actual vomit, but be prepared for any eventuality.
6. Explain that, no, this doesn't necessarily mean that you're sleeping with multiple people (though you might be!), or that you're constantly having threesomes (though you might be!).
7. Come out to some more people. Find reactions ranging from support to confusion to repulsion. Take the negative reactions with a grain of salt, then use that salt on popcorn for your next date.
8. Come out again. Come out to the same people from steps 6 and 7. Repeat as necessary (and it will likely be necessary). Feel your confidence grow with each admission. Feel how comfortably your skin fits around you.
9. Savor all the love you've allowed yourself to be open to. Find it, give it, and make it as often as you'd like.
10. Take a deep breath of fresh air. You've earned it.
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